How can a woman have a successful marriage?
Omotola:
I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man
and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised
institution, there is always a head and an assistant.
It doesn’t
mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the
other. I believe the husband is the head of the home and the wife is an
assistant. My husband is a pilot, I have flown with him several times
and I understood that here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both
responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when there is a final
decision to make, it is up to the captain to make it. He is more
experienced and the one with the responsibility. But any mature captain
will not ignore his co-pilot because the co-pilot is not a cabin
attendant. He is there for a reason. It just depends on how you
understand and play your roles.
I believe women should
understand this. When a woman starts a struggle for power tussle with
him, it tends to cause friction in the home. The woman should give the
man the respect as the head of the home and also prove herself as a
worthy co-pilot. He needs to see you as a reliable co-pilot. Sometimes,
he may not be the one running the house day-to-day, you are the one to
take decisions but you have to do it in such a manner that he is
comfortable enough to see you as someone he can rely on. When you have a
proud and egocentric husband, hand him over to God. If you feel like
your life is being threatened, or that of your children, get yourself
out of that situation. You owe your children that. Try separation for a
while, but before that, you must have tried other things. I do not
believe that people should throw in the towel in their marriage at every
flimsy excuse.
You must have been a diligent wife and tried
prayers and intervention. If all those fail, then you can remove
yourself from that situation. Also, couples should be friends and
communicate. What we call love sometimes fizzles out. True love comes
from friendship. When you don’t feel those initial sparks, friendship is
what keeps you together, until when the spark comes again..
